I work with a lot of middle school student and I was thinking this morning what I would tell my middle school self now if I could talk to her. I would probably tell myself to rethink the whole spongebob tie with a t-shirt look, among other things…
Dear middle school me,
Stop looking around. Your eyes darting from left to right will only breed in you comparison. There is nothing wrong with you and working through comparison will take up the first couple years of your 20’s and it will continue to rear its ugly head in the most inconvenient times. Learn to see the beauty in being unique and different, the sooner you do that, the sooner you will live free from the world’s expectations of you. Believe what your mom tells you, that not having a date to the Valentine’s Day Dance is NOT the end of the world. You will look back on those pictures with your friends and laugh SOOOO hard!
Live out the stuff you’re studying in the Bible; it’s not just good ideas for when you get older, it could change everything about 7th grade…or even your life. Value the friends you have, don’t change yourself just to make new ones; ones you think are “cooler.” When you feel sad, pick-up the phone or pick-up a pen and write, becoming a recluse will not lead anywhere beneficial. You’ve always been the loud one so speak up, you have a voice, stand up for yourself, your friends, and anyone you see being picked on. The oppression of yourself or others is never worth being known as someone who will “keep her mouth shut.”
Get used to rejection, not because you deserve it but because it is inevitable in the world. But it doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Rejection doesn’t mean you are unlovable, it just means there’s something different in store. Rejection can protect you from idolizing jobs, lifestyles, or people; let it empower you by not fearing it. Overcome rejection and comparison by keeping your eyes on the One who created you. Always celebrate Love, because regardless of your relationship status you were created to Love because you were created by the One who displayed the greatest example of sacrificial Love everrrrr.
Also, don’t try to dye your hair red with cool aid; it will dye your face and whole body an unnatural red and leave your hair that same old poop brown.
Future Brittany (it doesn’t get easier)
I do my best to celebrate Love everyday, today is just an excuse to remind myself to do so.